Singleness, Celibacy & Marriage:
A topic that I’ve been considering quite a bit lately: Singleness, Celibacy & Marriage. Have you noticed that there are more and more people that are single? That’s because there are! And some of us, don’t want to stay that way. What ever happened to COMMITMENT? When did that become a four letter word? When did it become such a distasteful thought to be with someone (just one person) that you share your mind body and soul with, in a committed relationship? No games, no promiscuity, no drama (well maybe just a little, since some people feel validated by it).
Nowadays, people (both men and women…but mostly men, in my observations) want to be single and “free” until…well, until Mr. or Mrs. perfect just drops on their lap out of lala land. How did we allow ourselves to become so selfish and self centered? It’s all about me getting mine, getting more, getting off and just doing me. Has no one noticed what this is doing to the basic structure of life…the family?
Yes people are waiting longer to get married, but they (some) are reproducing during that wait. See, some of us are waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect for marriage, but not for sex. “Damn he/she is fine!”…wham, bam, thank you mam, SEX!! Yeah, I said it!(my bad, maybe that was just me and my friends?)
Now we have to add someone new to the equation, ten months later (40 weeks!!people 40 long weeks!!). Here is a new life, but you’re not quite a family are you? This is not the situation you wanted to be in. That wasn’t really who you wanted to be with, for the rest of your life was it? Please, you didn’t even know if that was someone you wanted to see again, period!! But now, oh yeah, now you have to deal with this person on a real level, sex aside, fineness aside (is that a word?). And you may find out that that person is not altogether stable (or not stable at all!), and this little person you both created is the one stuck getting the short end of the stick.
At this point, some men step up to the plate, put their own personal needs and wants aside and take care of their responsibility (like they’re supposed to!). But a growing number of men are not doing that. They’ve opted out. You on your own baby girl…I got mine, I got off and I’m going elsewhere to get some more good luck with that situation you got, see ya! (Clue to the ladies: If that’s pretty much how it jumped off, he’s probably not trying to take care of that child. Don’t be stupid woman, file for child support, handle your business!)
Did I miss something? Oh yeah, celibacy…don’t give it up to just anybody. Wait for a serious commitment…a love based relationship. Why are we settling for less?
Holla at your girl!!